Why We Don’t Feel Our Mother and Father Wounds Until the “Wake-Up” in Adulthood

You don’t feel the Mother or Father Wound right away. As kids, we’re wired for attachment over truth—so we normalize what hurts. We shrink, shape-shift, and internalize the message that love must be earned.

Then adulthood hits. Relationships expose patterns. Shame and worthlessness surface out of nowhere. And suddenly, we’re not just reacting to the present—we’re living out the echoes of childhood wounds we never realized were still running the show.

Why does the pain feel worse now? Because we’re finally awake to it. And that means we can finally heal it.